![I remember the call like it was yesterday. It was just after dinner one night when my mate called to ask me how I was going. But not the usual ‘how are you going?’ He asked me how I was really going, he digged a little deeper to really get it out of me. From [...]](http://softenthefckup.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/HDYHATC-252x109.jpg "How do you have a tough conversation?")
I remember the call like it was yesterday. It was just after dinner one night when my mate called to ask me how I was going. But not ...
![“I did not come out until the age of 23 and even then it was a very slow, nervous and calculated process. I was worried what the world would think – would I be turned into a second class citizen, does it make me less legitimate and credible and does it make me less of [...]](http://softenthefckup.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/Ourchildrenarelistening-252x109.jpg "Our children are listening")
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FEELING CRAP
Black clouds, black dog, black vortex, black energy, black fckin everything! Sometimes, you can’t even describe what feeling crap really feels like - its just a fcked up feeling.And there are a lot of reasons why you might be feeling crap. The important thing to do is try to work out why you’re feeling crap. How else will you address the negative emotions? Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t figure out what’s making you feel low. Sometimes it’s bloody hard to put your finger on the reason - that’s what makes it so difficult when you’re feeling that way. It could be because of something that has happened, or you might find yourself in a situation that’s causing you unease. ... -
World Suicide Prevention Day
Today is World Suicide Prevention Day, a day we recognise that most suicide is preventable and all of us have a role to play in reducing the number of suicide in Australia. A day we recognise that as Australians, we need to start the tough conversations with our mates and look out for our mates who might be going through a bit of a rough time, and get them help. Today is a day we all recognise our own mortality, and a day to remind us all that suicide is the leading cause of death amongst young people and we can all do something about it. Learn the signs and symptoms of some Man Facts and keep your mate honest with those tough ... -
Thinking about Death…
Saturday the 10th September 2011 is World Suicide Prevention Day. It's an important day to think about looking after one another and pausing to have a conversation with a mate who might be going through a tough time and needs to Soften the Fck Up....
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Why it’s not just a men’s issue
For the first time in a long time, I have found myself struggling to type the words swirling around my mind on a topic that is so passionately engrained in my soul; mental health. Normally I’m not afraid of, or have any trouble, writing about my own experience with mental health and advocating for greater Government support and systemic change. But this is for some reason, different. Perhaps it’s because I feel inferior and unqualified to write on the topic of men and mental health. I mean, what value or empathy could I possibly convey as a woman towards men who are struggling? Why would any man, young or old reading this, listen to anything I have to say on a topic that statistically they won’t even admit to themselves ...