It’s hard, but sometimes people just need to move apart and go on with life. Sometimes you just can’t grow anymore as a couple in the relationship. It may be the best and only option.

It’s not uncommon to feel denial, emptiness, loneliness, disappointment, anger or even relief. As much as we would like to pretend to be strong about it, most, if not all of us have been there. Managing these feelings may be hard and it may take some time to get over a relationship. Moving on from a relationship is much easier said than done.

It’s so fcking hard to “get over” someone, especially when you have spent so much time with them and have built such a bond and trust.

For some, the hardest part is wanting to have time to yourself, but then when you’re all by yourself, you get emotional. That’s when it’s good to have someone to talk to. This may be one of your mates, a family member or a counsellor. There are also lots of other things you can do to help yourself – keeping yourself busy, find a routine, look after yourself, do something you’ve always wanted to do, and most importantly, talk to someone. Grab a coffee or a beer, have a chat with your mate.

Trust me mate, sometimes it’s not as easy as you think it is to “get over it”. Check out some of these resources for more tips and pick up that phone and arrange coffee-or-beer-time with your mates:

Seperation: looking after yourself

Surviving relationship break up